Examples:
– Kid falls and they get on their pedestal to tell the kid that it’s what happens when they run too fast.

– Your tooth hurts and they blame you for something you might not be doing under the name of caring so that later they can find a way to pull a ‘told-you-so’.

– Finding any reason to point a finger for others crimes.

– Bringing up their own failure and pointing at others as the cause or humiliators.

– Enabling and voluntarily overdoing things for others then blaming them for having to work for them. Things that were not needed or asked for.

– No change in blaming even after all facts have been provided and proven otherwise.

– Blaming others of being victims when they’ve been milking victimhood for choosing wrong company for the wrong reasons.

– Blaming others for being liars when the games they’re playing between others are revealed to be lies.

Reason:
– They could be doing this so that they don’t feel down about themselves or something in their lives.

– Protection from having to experience someone else’s pain.

– Feeling shameful about something.

– Trying to avoid feelings they don’t want to feel and handing off the burden to someone else.

– They need someone to be the bad person not knowing that the other 3 fingers are pointing to them.

If you don’t understand and heal from their projection you will continue to think yourself to be the other persons story of yourself.

Solutions:

– First see if there is truth to the blame. It takes courage but will make you a better person.
– If they are ‘chronic blamers’ find ways to keep some distance. You can’t always play the negative character in their reality when your reality is different.

– Remember that you are not a bad person especially if this has been happening to you from a young age. As a young person you tend to see yourself through the eyes of close ones.

– Get to know your full truth. Think about this long and hard. Build and constantly hold up a force shield of what you know of yourself.

– Use their blame as a reminder to get away from their story and back to your truth.

– Feel compassion for their blindness and don’t try to keep justifying yourself. You decide how much time and effort you want to spend on it. Sometimes no matter how much you try their version will stay.

– Acknowledge if they blamer is partly right but also stand your ground on where they are wrong.

– Worse comes to worst, you can decide if you want to continue or end the relationship.

– You may also find this link helpful – How to Handle Criticism & Negativity

– And this one for a spiritual angle – The End of Victimhood – Matt Kahn / TrueDivineNature.com

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