Notes from the Pickup Artist Days – The Mystery Method, Speed Seduction, RSD and Many More

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Tons of Notes on Game, PUA, Self Improvement
Conversation Skills Improvement Games
– Word association, get someone to tell you a word… say one sentence about it. Soon as you finish you get thrown another word. 1 minute.
– In a few sentences give the other person 3 threads to talk about. And passing pass with each other 3 threads with no questions. 2 minutes.
– Get someone to blowout all the stuff you say as in talk negatively about it and you have to move the thread to something positive and not the same but should be connected to the convo.
– Adding emotion … enthusiastic speaking and adding feelings.
– Sexual innuendo. Talk about normal stuff but use slow talk and suggestive words.
– Role playing. Make it in the present moment. Secret agent, pretend lovers, doctor nurse etc.
– Use us, we, together, our. And us vs. them.
– 3 Book Summaries on How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes, Larry King and Toastmasters

The October Man Sequence: Beyond Hypnotic Seduction… Beyond Sexual Conditioning… Beyond Creating a New Sexual Identity
– We have levels like onions. What we want superficially is not what we want physically etc. Even onion layers can be like your childhood is the core while who they are now is the outer layer.
– Talk about their childhood, who they were and what they believed. What would the kid in you say. What would the kid in you say to the you right now.
– Pre-suppose what you want them to be. If you pre-suppose they are sex craved… you’ll act like that and project it on them.
– Imagination>Emotion>Physical or even lead the body and mind will follow.
– To get someone to give in to the craving … amplify the craving and get them fully immersed in the moment.
– You are more than the sum of your parts as people. Part of you is parents, friends, work friends, etc. but you’re them when they’re around.
– Same as places. A quiet place in your mind when you want peace etc.
– What you name becomes real. E.g. your mind has a dark place where it keeps its secrets and … bla bla bla… just expand more and more.

Style aka Neil Strauss of The Game
– Small chunk baby steps but keep progressing.
– Push 20% further than your comfort zone.
– Hang out with people better than you. Get a mentor but don’t outshine them.
– LAS VEGAS:
L. Looks (well groomed, stand out, peacock, belonging to a tribe e.g. hip hop, goths, etc.)
A. Adaptability (flexible to meet friends, family, bed, spontaneous, risk taking etc.)
S. Strength (ability to protect her, non-wussyness, assertive, taking charge, shit-test tackling, knowing where to go/what to get/what’s cool, having your rules, storytelling.)
V. Value (being interesting, chick-crack, demonstrate authority over her world, social proof.)
E. Emotional connection (sexual tension, rapport, commonalities).
G. Goals (ambition, 5 years from now goals).
A. Authenticity (congruence, happy with yourself and like yourself, dualities of yourself).
S. Self-worth (confidence, high status behaviour, feeling worthy, fuck it this world is yours take up space, even if they conflict with hers, admitting when you’re wrong).
– Room destroyer: After you’ve showed her how interesting you are, tell her to point out any guy and say you’re more interesting than any of them.
– On a date bet on what other couples are to each other, coworkers, married? Etc.
– Who lies more, men or women. Whatever the answer is you say women train men to lie more? Pause for suspense and then say because when you wear something and ask if it looks good or do I look fat… we have to lie.

Hypnotica (See his Ultimate Inner Game program here)
– Write your goals. In the present tense, only positive and then rewrite it. Clean up the first draft.

Robert Cialdini – The Power Of Persuasion
– Reciprocation: If you do me a favour I owe you a favour! People say yes to those they owe.
– Gratitude: When someone thanx you for something. Don’t say anytime, my pleasure, it was nothing, etc. Say ‘I know if the situation was reversed, you’d do the same for me’.
– Concession: Ask for a larger favour so they can say no and then drop down your request to your original favour.
– Scarcity: They want more of what they can’t have. Highlight a point that the people will only get this certain thing nowhere else but here. People are more concerned with what they stand to lose instead of gain. Exclusivity of information too.
– Authority: If an expert says it, it’s true. Especially credible experts. Before presenting strongest arguments, they present a weakness, drawback and then 2 steps fwd. Shows honesty to information and makes the strong points shine.
– Consistency/Commitment: Powerful commitments are written commitments. Restaurants added ‘will you’ before please call if you want to cancel your reservations and it made great changes.
– Consensus: E.g. ‘Operations are waiting, please call now’ was changed to ‘If operators are busy, please call again’. Shows that others are busy calling. What everyone else is into… others follow.
– Liking: People prefer to say yes to those they know and like. But if they don’t know you, they can like you with: Similarities, compliments and cooperative efforts.
Summary of his book Influence

V.I.P.
– You remind me of my girlfriend. Talk about all the qualities you like. Then say I gotta admit I just lied as an excuse to talk to you.
– Don’t ask (e.g. for kisses) when you can ask for forgiveness later.
– 97% of women masturbate in the shower… 3% sing and it’s always the same song… do you know what song? No? Guess you’re the other 97%.

Carlos Xuma Approach (Paras note: I felt like this guy collected so much information and fun facts but it was either too much or not really useful. So, the kind of stuff my thinking mind loves feeding on but not good for my action side.)
– No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.
– There is no rejection, only elimination. Either she qualifies herself to be part of your world and share your happiness or you move on to the next woman. 99.99% of rejections are something wrong about her… I mean she’s passing an opportunity to get to know you and you’re the bomb! Think about it, do you hear about guys being turned down 100 years ago? No! You hear about successes… all the times your gramps tried don’t matter… only when he got with grams. What is will matter anyway… once you’re old do you want to ‘should have talked to her?’, ‘should have done it this and that way?’, don’t think of ways just go for it.
– She needs to feel Security (rapport, trust, comfort), fun and CONSTRUCTIVE frustration.
– There might be a discomfort in doing this but just like gym and everything else… it’s going to make you stronger and you will have one up on other chumps.
– You qualify her! You have the eject button. Remember this – you cut it off, if it’s not going your way. You decide if you want to press the eject button. Know what you want and if not… ‘this is not working, nice to meet you’.
– Work on your pain/hurt/rejection/failure barrier and push the threshold.
– Interact with people as much as possible with right amount of isolation you need to recharge.
– She has to feel that if you approach you can progress it smoothly. Be cool and move forward.
– Choose a cool, high energy wing man. Adequate skill levels and can even feedback each other. Understand each other’s methods and signals.
– Women are always looking to get approached so while other guys don’t have a reason you know you have a reason now. Make it fun, it’ll reinforce positively. Don’t associate too much pain with it.
– Keep an eye on body language. If she’s changed from closed to open body language and other signs of IOIs… it’s a good thing.
– Pay attention to the situation. Don’t overstay your allowed time. Don’t over act or react and don’t panic.
– Strong eye contact! Keep it there! And keep an eye on her eyes to dilate. Watch what she’s looking at… keep an eye on her eyeing your mouth, says they want to kiss. If she’s maintaining eye contact… good… if she’s switching eyes looking at you… even better.
– Keep an eye on her lips too coz the more she animates them… the more she wants your attention there.
– If part of her body is facing you and part is facing away… she’s not with you 100%. If she leans forward every now and then… that’s good. And if her palms are facing you… it’s good. Hair flips are IOIs, behind her ear, strokes, fingers… any preening. Mostly hair but also other things like clothes, body, etc. See how she’s touching you, play hitting? Cleaning you off, touch your arm. She won’t do it too much but she will make her interest known. Hanging one shoe is a good thing.
– If she does the opposite of the above that’s a negative indication. Remember there’s no neutral… it’s either negative or positive. Check your gut feeling. Crossed arms are signs of discomfort. If she looks up and then to the side it’s a sign of scepticism.
– Proximity: 18 inches is Intimate. Informal friends is 1 to 4 feet. Formal friends 4 to 8 feet. Observe it to your advantage. Cautious testing required. Women interested will place them in your proximity more than once or pass by more than once so remember she’s making a point to be approached.
– Mirror and pace them. Do not emulate her negative ones like closed posture or leaning back. Talk, gesture, move, etc. the same pace as her speed.
– Approach killers to avoid: Bragging/boasting. Compliments too early. Sexual innuendo (not in the start/opening). Name dropping (famous people etc). No nagging, pressure, lewd behaviours. Pushing forward too fast.
– Assume the qualifier pose. You are the one who qualifies! Does she have the right stuff to be with me. e.g. You probably say that to a lot of girls. Actually, I only say it to girls I’m interested in and right now that’s you, you got a problem with that?
– Watch other people in social situations. See how folks interact. Invent stories with your date too.
– ‘You are a very fluid concept’. You can change you by your perceptions and beliefs.
– Conversation stacking/flow: Grab on to one word from the last sentence and branch of into one of the million topics. Where’d you get those shoes? I don’t remember… you don’t remember? Do you have Alzheimer/don’t remember usually means you got them from Primark/does your mom shop for you?
– Make a log so you see your patterns and progress etc. Make notes of what didn’t go as well as we wanted and what you would have done better so you’re ready next time.
– Opening ritual: Like baseball games. Check your nose, pump yourself up, breathing and heart rate, etc. Make up something that will help you. Maybe use some anchors.
– Stare down the bunny: Get a playboy centrefold, stick her on the wall and stare at her for a couple of minutes without looking at the rest of her. Can you keep your eyes where the need to be. Control!
– Breathe deep from stomach and full into lungs. Helps before every approach. Even picture walking in or around with two hot babes while doing a few rounds of breaths.
– T.E.D.: Target. Engage. Disengage. Identify target, know if you’re going to direct or indirect approach. Don’t try to impress her. Don’t bother about grand entrances just be cool. Let her see you first so it’s easier and preferably face to face approach. 3 second rule! Treat her like you know her for 30 years. Give nickname, straighten something up about her appearance.
– Secret: All women want to feel small and protected no matter how gangsta they may act.
– Look her up and down in a second to let her know your interest. Most guys won’t do this so again you’re got a one up.
– First goal… just opening. Then getting rapport, then number, then bouncing them, then kiss, then taking her home, etc.
– Disengage: Get what your goal is. No matter what outcome… your conditioning is ‘next’, ‘next’… treat them as if they’re yet to be qualified so leave if you don’t reach your goal or try to reach your goal and leave.

Approaches:
1 Remember don’t neglect the girls that you don’t pick up… they’ll even want to intro you to friends if she thinks you’re alpha enough.
2 Excuse the interruption. I was just doing so and so and I just had to tell you you’ve got a great energy about you (good approach).
3 Bridge to familiarity – hey excuse the interruption but did you work with Uzma in Boots, oh pardon me, I feel silly now I should introduce myself, I’m Paras.
4 Open with pop culture stuff, bust their balls, etc.
5 Hey don’t get too nervous now but I’m going to start picking up on you, you prepare yourself, here we go.
6 Opinion opener in happy hour/bar/party situation. ‘who lies more men or women?’. Who has more one night stands, yeah well if guys have more, they need a girl to have a one night stand with. I need a fresh perspective, this girl cheated on my friend and she told him and he broke it off (after they get into it add more masala) the other thing is he cheated on her too.
7 2on2 opener: Hey my friend isn’t from round this area. So how does everyone know each other.
8 Excuse me, I just want to say thank you, (after she asks why), well you ever had one of those days where you’re floating and suddenly you bump into someone with a great smile or happy and they make your day, so I just had to thank you for brightening my day, it would be a shame I didn’t get to see that smile again, what’s your name?
9 Restaurant/outdoor are: Excuse me is this chair taken? No? Take the chair and sit at the table, so what you guys talking about.
10 At concert: Excuse me is this lawn area open? Take their blanket and get comfy. So how was your day, sit next to her, pace with the banter, bring up ‘you know when you talk to someone and no matter how long you haven’t talked, you’re still cool’, etc.
11 Really bad sketch artist, sit with your pen and pad and make it obvious to target that you’re sketching her, sketch her in funny ways, stick person, etc. Once you’re done fold it up, take it over and say something like hey I did a great sketch and it’s my token of my appreciation, have fun with it then by explaining it like a critic (or also walk up and ask if you can do their sketch).
12 Which one of you has the most curious and adventurous mind, then stack forward.
13 You ladies look like you have wonderful personalities, so I came to introduce myself, I’m Paras.
14 Public environment, pretend to talk on phone, uh-hu yeah, I’m sitting next to a girl right now, she’s looking at me really weird, it’s not me it’s you asking all these stupid questions, I’m not going to ask her out, I don’t know, I can say hi to her, but I don’t know her, I think she’s coming on to me, giving me these google eyes.
15 Target in a working environment, you must get tired by the end of the day, do you ever get a chance to go on vacation, get her to describe it, mix it with going home, instead of vacation, ask about bath or shower and Rosses pattern, ask her name, you know what it’s too bad we’re not going to get to talk again without distractions and interruptions, then before leaving, you know it’s been fun to talk to you maybe we should meet up for coffee maybe tomorrow? (work for a close to get the number on the same day and date the next day).
16 Closing with someone you had good rapport with, I don’t think we should get to know each other, why not, I just think you’re too much of a nice girl for me.
17 You look like a celebrity, (if she’s hot take her a few notches down, if not then opposite).
18 Ask about being on a roller coaster, it’s about to climb and you’re know you’re in for a wild ride, then after the first hill you’re like all excited and all, what is it about a rollercoaster that’s so thrilling and scary at the same time, what’s your favourite part, get her emotional physiological stuff about it, talk about corkscrews and loops.
19 Open in bar, you know if you get any closer to me you’re going to have to buy me a drink, I’m not a call boy or anything but for a mojito I can be on your arm for 10-15 minutes.
20 Gym open, pick up and extra towel, hold up one of the towels and say you think she left it on that machine, you sure it smelled a bit like girl, if she don’t respond it’s all good.
21 Shopping store open on someone that don’t work there, excuse me you guys having a sale, could you check a price on something, once she says she don’t work there, pardon me you look like a hired gun and explain when she asks (also notice what she’s shopping/holding), ask for guy shopping advice, colours, size, etc.
22 Coffee opening, I’m looking for a different flavour, what you drinking, ask why she likes it.
23 Online directory, advertise for modelling contract, photography, no nudity, send headshot, etc.
24 Trivia opener for large groups, you guys remember the Dukes of Hazard, who was the guy in white, thanks ladies if we need any more great info later, we’ll come back to you, if they didn’t know the answer bust their balls.
25 Eye contact, lock stare on your target, make it seductive, and if she keeps the eye contact for more than 2 secs, OPEN, and if it didn’t happen the first time, get a wink in on the second one.
26 Pool shot, find ways to pump into her, ok you take your shot but then you got to blow on my queue for good luck, then make comments on her game etc.
27 Compliment her choices and decisions, like shoes especially, accessories, hey I was just walking by and I just had to say you look really well put together, that’s a really nice look for you then leave, sorry I didn’t mean to embarrass you before you just look well dressed, so I’m always curious, how do women select their clothing, what do you think about when choosing.

– Cold shoulder: I was just trying to be friendly, I got this vibe that you were warm and caring, thought you were fun, you’re not really cold and aloof, are you? Sorry for interrupting your miserable day, looks like you’re doing a great job keeping it that way.
– Story telling: 3 main elements, ethics, logic, emotions. Logic is least important, emotions is most important. Work stuff about all the senses into the story, feelings, etc. E.g. I was at a party once and we got drunk, went to playground, hey let’s run back naked, we ditched our clothes with wet blanket and we ran butt naked all the way back home, nobody saw us and after we sobered up, the wet blanket got drunk and found him under the couch etc. E.g. 2 Passionate story. I had this car when I was younger, 504 bla bla etc., describe it’s pros and cons, sentimental bla bla, etc. Make sure you let them know you’re passionate about something. Then ask what her passion is, make it sexual.
– Sex convo: Start with innuendo… it’s so hot, I’m getting moist. Make it look like she’s the one bringing it up. Talk about women, workouts, clothing, sports bra (moves to breasts geddit?). Don’t involve her or anyone in the past. E.g. have you ever skinny dipped, funniest thing you’ve done naked.
– Imagination/Power questions: You may have to give first before you get her to open up. Where would you live if you had a choice, anywhere in the world. Get her to describe it. What would you do if you could do anything in the world. Get to her describe it. Do you remember your first crush, what was it like, first kiss, first boyfriend, etc. What was the most fun you ever had doing anything, what was it like, who was with you, what did you do, etc. (Speed dating: So what are you doing to change the world.)
– Cube game: See Japanese Cube Test Kokology.
– Checkpoints/Strategy: Don’t show her your whole movie… she has to work to you opening up more. First how stable and cool are you, second is how stable and cool is she, third is the dynamic you two have so once you know you know if you need to eliminate her or keep ploughing. Always have a response. Sometimes a bitch shield needs cracking e.g. you know what something about you is you’re acting this way because you’re tired of bums hitting on you and maybe you think I’m one but deep inside after this night is over, I know who you are, pause, you have this really hard shield that protects you but deep inside you want to let someone in so you can’t pull the wool over my eyes. Opening sets, bring in friends and disarm mother hen. If you’re getting AMOGed… find a way to do the same.
– Courage is not feeling no fear, its acting in spite of fear.

Peter Bender
– Teach to get better at whatever it is.
– Scare yourself – stretch your boundaries – risk taking.
– Get partners/co-workers that are different to you. Don’t get fooled into teaming up with someone just because you have similar qualities/personalities.
– Talk to yourself – so you feel happy and good inside. (You can do it, I believe in you, good work, etc.)
– If someone bitches and complains – don’t carry on the same pattern… flip it or escape!
– Presentation: First smile, look at everyone, talk slow, wear appropriate threads.

Anthony Robbins
TAKE THAT FIRST STEP
– Commit to being a team player (key to being happy and wealthy).
– Things that I practice in private, I will be rewarded for in public.
– If you ‘can’t’ then you must. And if you must then you can.
1 Personal power, ability to take action and translate it to reality. (His Personal Power 2 program literally changed my life in 30 days.)
2 Skill of being able to define specifically (EXACTLY) what it is that you want and also help others with what they want.
– It’s not what happens, it’s what you do that makes the difference.
– Belief systems, copy other successful beliefs.
– Get rid of fear of failure is by learning from it and seeing it as a lesson. See it as always succeeding in creating a result even if it’s not the one you wanted.
– Know EXACTLY what you want and take steps to get it.
– Small choices especially in your habits/behaviours which are only there because of your association with it.
– Replay negative experiences, change colours, make it funny, replay it that way.
– Things are negative coz of negative associations.
– Learn to associate and disassociate.
– To fall in love is to associate with everything you love about them and disassociate with what you dont.
– Anchor – Intense state + apply trigger at peak + unique stimulus/trigger + remember to replicate.
– Eliminate phobias: Set positive anchor + double disassociate (like you watching you watching movie) + Change internal representation + Transfer positive anchors to phobia.
– Repetition is the mother of skill!
– Success formula – 1 know your outcome, 2 know why you want it, 3 take massive action, 4 know what you’re getting, 5 if you don’t get it change your approach.
– Create lasting change – 3 Beliefs: Something MUST change, past does not = future, all beliefs carry consequences with them. Leverage/assosiation massive immidiate consequences! And changing now will = massive immediate levels of pleasure and fulfilment. MUST interrupt limiting pattern! Then create an empowering alternative AND reinforce it.
– Human needs – 1 certainty, 2 uncertainty, 3 significance, 4 love/connection, 5 GROWTH, 6 CONTRIBUTION BEYOND YOURSELF. More info here.

– People buy what they want, not what they need. What they associate with more pleasure and less pain.
– Like football go where the ball is going not where it is. Estimate the future.
– I’m committed to unconscious competence.

David Deangelo
– Don’t use your amazing mind to think up negative things e.g. how/why you’ll screw up.
– Have default attitudes.
– Treat her like brat sister. Mimic.
– Replay scenes, perfect performance in your head.
– Use goofs to your advantage.
– Make them laugh more, bust on them.
– Making them laugh and not laughing yourself is higher status.
– Eye contact, don’t look back for a fraction of a second.
– Turn your limiting believes in to ‘How’ questions. How can I feel less timid?
– ‘You are a guest in my reality, so don’t mess with it or you will have to leave’.
– Be good at communicating what you want. No need to be verbose.
– Obsession – Created by punishing/rewarding at unpredictable moments.
– Be a SAM – sexually aggressive male. Don’t show your wuss side.
– Body language – be aware of high-status body lang.
– Human mating sequence – Eye contact, verbal contact both approx. side by side, then face to face, then hand/arm contact, mouth to mouth, hand to genital, sometimes mouth to breasts, mouth to genital, finally SCORE.

Craig
– Believe in it… it will work!
– Create emotion.
– I’m gonna hypnotize you… then fall over her as if you’ve hypnotized yourself.
– Eye contact from a distance – pretend to avoid their glance, wink, nod.
– Holding hands make sure yours is in front so plam facing back.
– Talk to everyone. Make them see you’re cool.
– Once in a while, make people ask you their question more than twice.
– Look at the guy with the girls and copy style, clothes, etc.

Daddy
– Never ask, always instruct.
– In a set talk to the one you like last.

Tyler
– Simple tap. On approach don’t open and leave the ball in her court.
– Talk loud. Don’t wait for an opening.
– Don’t hover, reaction seek.
– If using opener, don’t stay on same subject.
– 4 styles: Cold reading. Storytelling. Role playing. Misinterpretation (funny way).
– Don’t do it for reaction or don’t look like you’re seeking reactions.

Mystery
– Proximity: They have their back against you.
– Your first impression sucked but now that I get to know you, you’re absolutely incredible. I feel foolish for thinking otherwise.
– When approaching come in a circle not direct.
– Hand holding, elbow and elbow, embarrassing, kissing, Frenching.

Dr. Paul Dobranski (This guys talk about creating healthy boundaries changed my life).
– Go out and have fun. Play games with buddies.
– Make decisions. Doing anything is better than nothing.

Wing girls
– Don’t talk to them if they’re with friends.
– If at the bar just fluffing around… SWOOP IN!
– Double entendre is good.
– Short answers is not.
– Ask questions that require more than a one-word answer.
– Engage/disengage. Talk then disengage and come back.

Sean
– Anything is possible when you’re comfortable.
– Picture the feeling you want… or create your feelings and imagine what those feelings would look feel like.
– Write the ‘buts’ you use that stop you.
– If you wanna be sexy, powerful, etc… start being it from inside. Create it.
– Stop caring what others think of you!
– Enough of studying, seminars, videos… do something!
– Believing is seeing.
– ‘You are everything I never thought I wanted’.

Steve & Eric
– Artistic evaluation pose. Hmmm I don’t know if I want to invest in this, don’t know yet so I’m still evaluating.
– While talking, bite lip, look em up, lick lips.

DD’s buddy
– Always assume familiarity and rapport.
– When you get shutdown it’s nothing to do with you.
– Look for YOUR entertainment first and foremost.
– Find jokes everywhere, joke around but never laugh or compose yourself.

David Deangelo On Success
– Don’t generalise others opinions (identity meaning).
– Ask yourself whats your next level and how to achieve that.
– Go teach immediately something amazing you learnt, to as many people as you can.
– Be authentic, blunt, brutally honest when you need to be.
– Learn to lead.

Brad P
– 3 Second rule. Just jump in don’t worry if the material is good or not as long as you do something.
– Rejection is a blessing as you sieve out the ones with bad attitudes.
– No/Stop means not right now, try again later. Don’t act stupid or be put down by No/Stop. (Paras note: But also use your brains!)

Kathrine Scott
– Be direct and decisive.
– Look into eyes and move closer, if pupils expand… you’re in!
– Know what physical qualities you like (for men physical is first).

Pua training
State control
– Music that pumps you.
– Movement like clicking fingers etc. to NLP anchor the feeling.
– Make sure you always have higher energy and more interesting than what the sets have going on.
– If you’re with a crowd try and be different, if they’re loud you be James Bond, if they’re quiet you be high energy.

Body language
– Gesture more, bend at your elbows and keep your hands in front of you, don’t gesture with your hands on your sides.
– Animate your face more, vary voice tone like Tony Robbins showing passion.
– Use your eyes to catch the attention of someone losing interest or direct conversation at them.
– Practice by looking at people and not being the first one to break eye contact.
– Pick an opener, use without any gestures or voice variations then add more slowly till you find it perfect.

3 Characters
– Mr. Sociable, Mr. Comfort, The Seducer.
– Start of with action, then move on to more comfort then seduce.
– Mr. Sociable: Has high energy, very interesting, entertaining, never a moment of silence.
– Mr. Comfort: Good time to bring comfort in is when the set stops looking at each other and around and instead look at you.
– The Seducer: Create sexual tension. Look at her in a way that says I want you. Don’t break eye contact! Speak slower, deeper. Increase Kino escalation. Be softer and smoother. Hold her hand, 100% eye contact. Use pauses in convo purposefully. Sexual tension = eye contact + pause.
– Use a mirror to practice and copy actors in movies.

Approach
– Warm approach: when you’ve already got an IOI or know she’s receptive.
– Cold approach: when you don’t know if she’ll like you or not.
– Force her interest by doing something different when she’s looking. Stick out your tongue, point at her, raise a glass, etc.
– Soon as you get an IOI say something. Hey hows it going?
– Use any excuse to break ice. Hey watch it, etc.
– Rake the room and open all the groups you’re interested in (social proof!). Pretend to leave and then as an after thought get the name. Then when you return to the group open with the name and it’ll impress her. Go around the room cheers everyone without trying to pick up women.
– Don’t only game girls. Make friends if they’re nice. Be cool and hang out and have fun.

Structure
– Open and transition, keep talking till she’s comfortable and starts talking, gives fuller responses, open body language, attention on you.
– Rapport, make her realize you understand her and increase kino.
– Use Mr. Social till you hook, Mr. Comfort for the rest and test out The Seducer when you feel it’s time.
– Hey is always a good opener but follow by a pause so you have their attention. Hey, oi, yo, howdy, finger click, etc.
– Transition is more important than opener. Basically shooting the shit! Keep stacking stories. Make sure it’s solid, if it’s weak don’t acknowledge it and keep going.

Opening
Indirect openers (in all cases don’t give them too much time to answer and stack forward):
1 – Oh there’s a guy over there how is so perfect for you… trust me I’m a great match maker.
2 – Call her over or come in the way and then say “You are sooooo…. in my way”.
3 – You guys sociable/friendly?
4 – You guys super shy or what… I’ve been standing here 10 minutes and you’ve not even bought me a drink or introduced yourselves.
5 – Look at girl, double take, frown, adjust offending item, thumbs up, on her and then ask her name… Tanya… Tanya, I’ve just made you 38% more attractive, you owe me.
6 – Hey I’m out meeting people tonight, what’s your name?
7 – Is this area of floor/grass taken.
8 – Get ready, you’re gonna be chatted up, you should really be sitting down… and then give them the worst pick up line. Then discuss best and worst ways to meet and pick up girls.
9 – Accuse them of stalking you, checking you out, daggers, etc.
10 – My girl thinks you’re hot.
11 – You guys making mischief over here. You look shifty, like you’re going to steal something.
12 – My friend wants to know if you think I’m hot.
13 – If you see a serious convo … I know that look, you guys male bashing?
14 – You listening to our convo, then why you acting so nervous, so what you think…. about what we were talking about… then talk about what you were discussing kinda thing… into an opinion opener.
15 – You confident enough to accept a compliment? Good so am I so you go first.
16 – You single then why you checking me out? Are you nervous? Once she gets mad, nudge her, wink, etc.
17 – If I didn’t have a girlfriend or wasn’t gay you’d so be mine.
18 – With girl looking bored… you look like you have a lot going on inside here… point head.
19 – I have a policy of meeting the hottest girl when I go out. So do you know her.
– Opinion Opener: Make it seem spontaneous, or root it. E.g. a friend just said so and so or someone just said. Rooting is where you tell them why you’re asking them. E.g. hey I need some advice on so and so.
– Direct Opener: Only do this when you have extreme confidence.
1 – I know this is random but I had to tell you that you’re just too cute.
2 – I saw you and I know if I didn’t come intro myself I’d regret it.
3 – You’re beautiful and I’m gonna get to know you.
– Situational Opener: (Use once comfortable with canned openers and being more spontaneous) Talk about current thing like the environment. When discussing with friends use it as reason to open. Blurt things out when you think of them like when with friends or family. When seeing a walking girl just say hi and roll with it.
1 – What’s with his clothes. 2 – Ice-cream in winter.

Conversation
– In bigger sets, eye contact everyone equally and only more to someone who is not paying attention. Try eye contact on the streets and not breaking it before they break it.
– Be aware of your body and get rid of nervous ticks and such.
– Stop asking her questions with one word or quick answers. Connect… and go deeper, you talk more and don’t rely on her to carry on the convo in the start. 90% Statements and 10% Questions like how you do with friends and family. Practice and be aware.

Threads
– Know how to keep threading e.g. fashion, clothes, shoes, feet, manicure, beauty etc.
– Think about threads you’ve had with friends.
– When she starts asking questions make your answers interesting or with passion. Or like switch e.g. but anyway that’s work… what I really like doing is bla bla bla.
– Talk with passion, let it show and be expressive. Use story telling skills.