Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway – How to turn your fear and indecision into confidence and action (is the full title with strapline).

Video summary below.

Love it! It has profound knowledge and looks at fear in different angles to show us how we can tackle it, dance with it and eventually take it to bed and bang it’s brains out so it can leave us to have a cigarette. (Sorry, been off cigarettes for a while and feel like having one). Like all good knowledge Susan gives us a small line or two at a time and expounds on it. E.g. in the first chapter I found the best knowledge in the whole book and all that line said was… I CAN’T HANDLE IT. Then she’ll go on to why our fears are really just the thought of us not being able to handle a situation. Below are some of the lines or angles on what she shares in the book. I wont give too much away mostly for legal reasons :os but yeah… another one is about our loved ones being so caring they install that fear in us kinda thing and I might even put up my own bicycle story in a separate post as an example. On a final note she kind of sells herself short in the book by first giving these small points and then saying things like ‘I know you’re probably not juming up and down about it’. Well of course I’m not how else am I going to carry on reading… and I’m not the exercycle anyway!

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Snippets of the knowledge…
– Fear is you thinking you can’t handle it.

– Fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow so go and do what you fear coz not only are you going to experience fear on unfamiliar but so is everybody. Pushing through it is easier than living with the fear of helplessness.

– She’s got this table where you can either choose Pain or Power. With pain comes helplessness, depression, paralysis and with power comes choice, excitement, action. Stuff like even your working is important like if you say I can’t it comes from pain, I won’t comes from power.

– Taking responsibility for everything. Don’t blame others, don’t blame yourself, knowing when you’re not taking resonsibility, handleing your ‘chatterbox’, being aware of payoffs (like staying in a situation coz you’re comfortable with the rut and know how to handle it even if it’s drama), knowing there is more than one choice in any situation.

– Affirmations and positive thinking and one that I’ve stuck to since I came to London… avoiding people that make you feel like you’re not capable of things. And how to handle these people if they’re loved ones.

– Seeing every situation as a win-win. A great example – a plane in the air is never on course till when it gets closer to the landing strip.

– Filling your life with lots of things so your focus is not only on one thing like a relationship coz if that ends you’ll feel empty and useless kinda thing. Of course allocate time for different stuff and give it your 100% when you’re focusing on that.

– Genuine giving in love and not in expectation of getting.

– Surrounding yourself with people you want to be like.

– She gets into her version of spirituality and some of the knowledge there too is amazing! And some cool visualization/self-hypnosis thing.

Big up Ameet for lending me the book… I’ve had .pdfs of these selfhelp books but not been bothered since I don’t like reading on the comp and don’t wanna waste paper…. that Kindle’s calling.

Contents
INTRODUCTION – Opening the Door
1 – What Are You Afriad of … and Why?
2 – Can’t You Make It Go Away?
3 – From Pain to Power
4 – Whether You Want It or Not … It’s Yours
5 – Pollyanna Rides Again
6 – When “They” Don’t Want You to Grow
7 – How to Make a No-Lose Decision
8 – How Whole Is Your “Whole Life”?
9 – Just Nod Your Head – Say “Yes!”
10 – Choosing Love and Trust
11 – Filling the Inner Void
12 – There Is Plenty of Time
BIBLIOGRAPHY
OTHER RESOURCES
EXTRACTS FROM READERS’ LETTERS