Neither accept people as they are nor tolerate them.
Many people think tolerance is a virtue but tolerance is actually a negative term. If you like something, you do not have to tolerate it. Tolerance indicates a deep sense of dislike that can at any time turn into hatred. If indicates a sense of separateness, small mindedness, a limitation of consciousness.

When you tolerate, it is a temporary state. Tolerance is a potential volcano. If you are tolerating, it means you are just holding on. Acceptance is also negative. You accept that which is not lovable. Tolerance and acceptance come with judgement and separation.

Question: “But aren’t we supposed to accept people as they are?” (1 of 8 AOL tools of life).
Answer: If you do not love them, then you have to accept them. I tell you, do not accept people as they are. Just love them as they are.